Here's my story.
Try taking her shooting.
My Wife was against guns from being taught by her Father. He had had a bad experience hunting (almost shot
by two stupid hunters he was with) when he was young that translated into a hatred of guns he passed on to all his kids.
I've lived with guns all my life. My Wife new this going in and put up with it.
After we were married and had a couple Sons, we bought some land in PA and a 14' x 60' trailer with all utilities to go to on weekends.
We used a Trius Trap and it turned out my Wife had a great time busting clay pigeons with my Rem 1100 12 ga., with Poly-Choke I got when
I was 12 years old. We'd also burn thru a lot of 22 and 9mm ammo.
One July Fourth, we invited EVERYONE to the Trailer for the weekend.
When we got the guns out, my In-Laws ran into the Trailer.
I got everyone together and explained the Range Rules. You violate and you sit. No second chances. Just how I was taught.
We went thru 2 cases of pigeons that day. When we were almost thru, my Father-In-Law came out of the Trailer and wanted
to shoot. I think he saw how safely the shoot was conducted and the old memories were tugging at him. He missed 15 clays and
wouldn't stop 'til he busted one. He chipped number 16 and was smiling when he handed me the gun.
BTW, My Sister-In-Law, who had NEVER held a 12 ga. shotgun in her hands, busted the first 21 clays in a row before missing.